Have You Ever Dated A Colleague?

Have You Ever Dated A Colleague?

You spend a large part of your day at the office, so it’s natural that your colleagues may also be some of your closest friends. However, being intimate with someone you work with offers a number of workplace challenges. Have you ever walked that line? Did it work out for you?

We got to thinking about this when we read a Glassdoor survey that one in 10 people have made love in the office. The majority of those respondants (a slim majority at 51 per cent) said it’s normal and OK to be romantically involved with a coworker, and 37 per cent said they had been personally involved with a coworker themselves. Over 54 per cent of respondents noted that office romances always wind up ending in awkwardness at work, which is never a good thing.

What about you? Have you gotten yourself into a romantic relationship (or are you in one) with someone you work with, or is it a terrible idea destined to end in tears? How do you stay productive and professionally detached? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.


  • Repeat offender. People say its a bad idea, but the only time I’ve known it to be a problem is when the guy came on to strong and the women wasn’t interested. I think it happens a lot. I’ve also slept with room mates, and never had a problem either.

    Met my fiancée at work too.

  • I’ve had three serious relationships in my life (including my current fiancee), and they’ve all been with people I worked with at the time. There has never been any awkwardness or discomfort, but I think that comes down to the people involved. As long as both are emotionally mature and can draw the dividing line between their work and personal lives, I don’t think it’s a problem.

    I think the couple needs to be careful not to bring up any personal business at work. No complaining to another coworker about how he leaves his clothes all over the floor, or how she leaves her makeup all over the bathroom, and NEVER anything about sexual interactions. Work is work, and personal is personal, and never the twain shall meet.

  • Dated no, slept with yes.

    Made for an incredibly fun working environment hanging out at work and flirting with/picking up people together (only when it was obviously appropriate :P) never got complicated either eventually we both settled down with serious partners, remained collegues and close friends.

    A few years down the track we ended up living together as friends and they remain one of my dearest friends to this day. So it doesn’t have to be complicated although I can certainly understand how if that kind of relationship went badly it would be extremely awkward, especially in a case when we both loved our jobs so much and it was a small business so there was no option to change location

  • I know several people who have. Where I’ve worked previously, 1 guy started dating our female boss – and then he started cheating on her. She found out. Wasn’t a fun workplace to be at after that. But at least then, he got all the boring tasks no one else wanted to do.

  • Twice. First time was a nightmare with recriminations and complaints. From that point on I said never again.

    So the next time I waited until she’d moved on to another job before I made the next step. Been together over 7 1/2 years and got married last year.

  • I had known this work colleague for 2 years before we started dating. There was a spark between from the very beginning but I was always hesitant to ask her out on date because we were colleagues in the same building.

    Still working with the same company, however when I was relocated to a new building I took the opportunity and asked her on a date by sending some roses on valentines day.

    We recently got engaged.

  • Saw a relationship between two of my colleagues at work fall completely apart a few years ago, they had been going out for almost 2 years, and after the break-up had to see each other every single day. One was like ‘mehh..’ but the other fell into a grave of depression. It made working with both colleagues very uncomfortable because of unpredictable mood swings.

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