Whether you’re looking to hide your personal activities from prospective employers or you just don’t want last Friday’s naked wood-chopping contest making the rounds on the internet, getting rid of embarrassing online photos, videos and messages can be tough. Here’s how you can take action when you want to purge the internet of your shameful content and maintain your upstanding online reputation.
Google executive chairman Eric Schmidt famously said, “If you have something that you don’t want anyone to know, maybe you shouldn’t be doing it in the first place.” His advice probably is your best course of action if you never want to be embarrassed again in your life, but it’s also a good way to never have fun again. In fact, for most of us, there are certain embarrassments we’re happy to share with certain folks but not others. At some point we’ve all had something to hide, but the internet makes that difficult. In this post we’re going to take a look at how you can retake your privacy (or at least greatly improve it) and control your online reputation.
First we’ll take a look at Facebook, the most popular social network on the planet and subsequently home to some of your most embarrassing photos, public arguments and so on. Then we’ll look at controlling what shows up on the web in general.
Get Embarrassing Content Removed from Facebook
Facebook wants to be the place where you share everything, but there are some moments in life you’d probably rather keep private. You can certainly prevent yourself from posting embarrassing drunk photos or a love letter you sent to a crush in high school, but you can’t control other people. When a friend, family member, or enemy posts content you don’t want anyone to see, here are the steps you need to take to get it removed.
Stage One: Use Facebook’s Built-in Content Removal Tools
In the event that the problem photo is not terribly extreme, however, and you just don’t want it showing up as one of the top five photos on your profile, you can remove it very easily. Just hover over that photo’s thumbnail on your page and click the little “X” that appears in the top right corner.
These are the most common types of embarrassing content you’d want to remove and report, but Facebook provides similar tools for just about anything on the site. For instructions on dealing with embarrassing groups, fake profiles and more, check out Facebook’s content reporting FAQ.
Stage Two: Ask Your Friend to Remove the Embarrassing Content
Stage Three: Contact Facebook
- Post in the help discussions to get advice from other Facebook users and occassionally from Facebook staff.
- Submit a complaint via the Facebook Intellectual Property Infringement Form. In the event the offending content is a photo, you can report that you did not give the person posting this photo permission to use your likeness in any way and want it removed.
- Submit a complaint via the Facebook Terms Violation Reporting Form. This form was designed to help people who can’t access their accounts and need a means of getting help. You’re supposed to use the aforementioned help discussions in the event you can still log in. If you’re having issues with content removal, however, the help discussions may not be too helpful. Rather than give up, open a private browsing session or log out of your Facebook account to access this page and submit your issue.
- Send an email to [email protected]. Back when Facebook provided proper email support you’d reach them via this address. This address seems to be active, but few people have had any success in using it. If you’re completely out of options, use it as a last-ditch effort.
For more ways to contact Facebook regarding specific issues, check out this note.
Stage Four: Beef Up Your Privacy Settings
To do this, you need to start by accessing your Privacy Settings. These are easy to find by going to the top right part of any page and clicking on the downward facing triangle (pictured to the right). This will reveal a menu where you can click Privacy Settings. From there you have a few relevant options.
The How Tags Work section provides you with several options to help prevent unwanted tagging of photos, messages, and more. You can turn on “Profile Review” and “Tag Review” so that you get to approve every tag before it’s allowed to become active.
Finally, the Manage Blocking section will allow you to block users from interacting with you in any way. You’ll find this option at the bottom of the page and will only want to use it in extreme circumstances. It’s important to remember that while it will prevent them from tagging you in embarrassing content, it won’t prevent them from posting it.
For more Facebook privacy tips, be sure to check out our always up-to-date guide on managing your Facebook privacy.
Remove or Bury Unwanted Search Results
The fastest way to drudge up embarrassing information about anyone — whether they’re on Facebook or not — is by hitting up your search engine of choice (although there are plenty of other methods). When your own shameful content shows up in Google, you can’t always get it removed but there is plenty you can do to bury it.
Step One: Attempt to Get the Content Officially Removed
In extreme situations, you can submit a legal complaint to Google. Google tends to respond to these legal complaints with quick removal, not taking much effort to investigate. This can be good for you if you want something removed, but bad for the person whose page is being removed as the appeal process can take a long time. You don’t want to go this route unless someone is using your likeness without your consent, using your work without permission, defaming you, or potentially breaking the law in another way.
Step Two: Bury the Unwanted Content So Nobody Can Find It
As we’ve previously discussed, registering your name as a domain name and putting up a name plate website can help you reclaim what shows up in your search results. Just be sure to add links to your website on other social sites to help increase its page rank.
You’ll need to actually manage your online reputation once you have it set up so your content rises above the embarrassing stuff you can’t destroy. This doesn’t require much more than actually using the services you sign up for and posting only things you want others to see. If you have a problem posting responsibly, install Internet Shame Insurance to get a warning before you post content you’ll regret.
How About You?
Personally, I like to keep my embarrassments alive and well on the internet but I have quite a few friends who have struggled with the problem of eliminating theirs. It can be a long process to cover up the stuff you don’t want others to see even if you do know what you’re doing. Have you gone through the trouble of keeping your online persona pristine and shame-free? If you have any additional tips or stories to share, you know where to post them! (If you don’t, actually, that place would be the comments.)