You’re fat, in debt, bite your nails, live in a filthy hovel you call an apartment, can’t find a decent job, and your life sucks. Well, maybe it isn’t that bad, but if you could stand to improve things in one area or another we can help. Here are our top 10 solutions to life’s most annoying and troubling problems.
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10. Your Home Is A Mess
9. You’re Addicted To Technology
One of the best times to unplug, however, is one you might think of as the worst: when you’re out in the world and walking around or simply sitting with nothing to do. One of the major problems technology addiction has caused is a lack of awareness. Like with the movie theatre, then the TV, and now the smartphone, technology transports your mind into another place regardless of where you are. If you start spending a little more time being aware of your surroundings, you might find that not only are interesting things happening all around you, but that you’ll also become far more functional in various situations. We have a lot of little and big screens in our life, and they’re fun, but we weren’t meant to stare at them everywhere we go. Set some time aside for the world and it should help your tech addiction fade away.
For more info on why technology is so addictive and additional strategies on beating the problem, check out our full guide on tech burnout.
8. You’re Being Manipulated
7. You Can’t Sleep
6. You’re Poor
5. You Want To Break A Bad Habit
4. You’re Burnt Out (Or Getting There)
For a lot more information on burnout, be sure to read Burnout And How to Deal With It.
3. You Hate Your Job
But what if you don’t want to leave your job even though it’s making you miserable? It might just be your outlook that’s weighing you down. You may be out of balance and burnt out, which we’ve already covered. If you’ve dealt with those problems already, check out these methods for making your work life better.
2. You’re Fat And Unhealthy
So how do you put that plan together? It’s impossible to say what will or will not work for you but we can talk about a few options. First, cognitive-behavioral coping skills can be a good way to form a plan. They’ll help you focus on your eating, rather than make it an activity that takes a backseat to watching television (for example), regularly remind yourself of your goals, and help you stay positive. Some people find that apps and accountability (to, say, an online community) make it much easier to lose weight. (Here are some app suggestions for Android and iPhone.) You lose a little privacy in the process, but it’s a pretty reasonable price to pay for achieving a fairly difficult goal. Personally, I think it’s important to put togethe a psychology profile before you start your diet and exercise routine because you’re human and if you only functioned by logic you would simply stay healthy all the time. Because you’re also a very emotional being, you’re going to have cravings that aren’t necessarily physical. Personally, I have a weird psychological obsession with cupcakes. Profiling yourself is a good way to expect these issues and figure out solutions before they occur.
Whatever you do, just make sure it’s something you can commit to or it’s completely pointless. Try new foods and physical activities to find ones you like. This is one problem you can’t beat until you can find a way you can enjoy the hard work it takes to beat it.
1. You’re Unhappy
First, here’s what I did. I’m a generally happy person, but I wasn’t for about a decade. I made a lot of decisions that I thought would make me happy, figured out most of them made me more unhappy, and then decided to come up with a new plan. I used to have a friend who treated me poorly, and the first step of that plan was putting an end to that friendship. I realised we had a lot of similar behaviours, and those behaviours were making me unhappy, so I adopted a policy of doing the opposite of everything I thought she would do. My life has been a straight upshot ever since. To simplify things further, I make nearly all my decisions based on the answers to two questions. First, I ask if saying yes to this choice will make me happy. Second, I ask if I think saying yes is the right thing to do. If both questions are yes, I do it. If not, I don’t. Sometimes I’m afraid of what I might be missing when I say no, but that fear diminishes every day because too many good things happen.
But I’m not everybody, and so what I do isn’t necessarily the best option for you. Other options include focusing on the little things,systematically replacing the bad things in your life on a weekly basis, making $US75,000 (but not more), not being a perfectionist, not faking happiness, and thinking about what made you laugh today.
Life can be tough, but if you commit to yourself and prioritise the things that matter you probably won’t even notice.