How Do You Pick Your Battles?

How Do You Pick Your Battles?

If you fight every battle, you’ll die from exhaustion. Sometimes — if not most of the time — we just have to let things go, especially when we’re at work. When you see an injustice, large or small, where do you draw the line?

I used to fight every battle and found it exhausting. While there were some fights I could win, many I’d lose simply because I they were impossible to win or I was fighting for something that ultimately didn’t matter. I still get frustrated every day, usually at little things, but I draw the line by asking myself the following:

  • What do I gain by winning? If it’s not much, it’s not worth it.
  • What do I lose by winning? Sometimes I lose more than I’d gain.
  • What’s the difference between their way and my way? Sometimes there’s really no core difference at all, but on the outside it just seems that way.

What do you do?


  • It depends on what you mean by small battle. I’ve seen people who see a lack of trollies at the supermarket as “a battle to be fought” and then end up verbally abusing cart collectors only to be viewed as abusive, overstressed bullies by onlookers. A rational person can distinquish between something important or a minor annoyance. Save it for a real fight.

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