Don't Fix Your Problems, Just Improve On Your Strengths

We all have faults, but trying to correct them means focusing a lot of time and energy on something negative. Instead, that energy may be better used to improve what we're already good at.

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Appreciative Inquiry promotes that, in order to better yourself, you need to put your focus on the things that work rather than the things that don't. If you're particularly good at something, and it makes you happy, you should instead focus your energy on that and not on the problematic aspects of yourself. If you're happier, you'll either see fewer things as problems or have the necessary confidence to fix them.

This is definitely a nice idea, and I imagine it works for some people, but it pretty much negates the way I've had any success and happiness in life. Personally, I tend to focus on the problems I have with myself and find ways to fix them. Doing something difficult — that maybe you think you can't even do — and succeeding is a great way to build self-esteem.

Ultimately it comes down to this: different strategies work for different people. Appreciative Inquiry probably isn't the best option for me, but it's probably a brand of positive thinking that can work for many others. What do you think? Could appreciative inquiry help you out? Share your thoughts in the comments.

What is Appreciative Inquiry? | AI Commons via Psychology Today


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    Like many things it can indeed be a case of ‘horses for courses’ – but as a crisis counsellor on a youth helpline I have found this approach most useful, being particularly effective with many young people who have suffered the constant criticism of being “useless”, when such in fact is not the case; this approach, at least as much as I have found helps tremendously in enabling and realising a fuller potential.

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