“You’re The Average Of The Five People You Spend The Most Time With."

Does who you are and who you will become depend heavily on the company you keep? Motivational speaker Jim Rohn suggests it does.

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This is just an idea. There's no science behind it. Nonetheless it's an interesting question to think about. Is your identity written by the people you choose to be with? In some ways this is a frustrating idea because it implies we aren't much in control over who we are. On the other hand, if you keep good company, it suggests good things about you as well.

Maybe it's relevant and maybe it's a load of BS. What do you think? What do you believe shapes who we are?

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    I think that it's more likely that your language is the average of the people you spend the most time with. Matching verbal tics and habits, that sort of thing. I notice it all the time...

    "In some ways this is a frustrating idea because it implies we aren’t much in control over who we are."

    Actually if look at the quote in the context that Jim used to give it, he was saying that you do have complete control over who you are. Or, to use one of his other catchy quotes:

    "If you can't change your friends, change your friends."

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