Dear Lifehacker, Your recent 100 Things You Can Live Without post has got me thinking. My partner and I are currently in the two-month countdown to our wedding, and one of the last few things to finalise is a list of gift ideas to give to our respective mothers in case a friend or family wants an idea on a gift (we don’t expect any gifts at all, just their company).
Whilst we had started planning some ideas, I realised this morning that wedding gifts could easily be just another opportunity for ‘acquiring’ things that we don’t necessarily need, and that will potentially further clutter up our household (We – and specially protohoarder me – have been gradually de-cluttering our lives… I’ve even forced a horrible restriction of two books out before buying another book!)…
So instead of listing things like a bread maker, iPhone dock, etc, as gift ideas, what could be some good (reasonably priced) ideas for gifts that would be useful, not just things/clutter, and ones that emphasise being used and not just *being*? Blanking on ideas, Jon
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I’m sure our readers will have plenty of ideas to contribute on this point, so I’ll just note down a couple of interesting variations on this approach that I’ve encountered over the years as a wedding guest and see what everyone else has to offer:
- One wedding I attended used this line: “We don’t need any more household appliances, but we’re saving for our mortgage deposit. Any contribution you could make towards this would be greatly appreciated.”
- If you don’t mind the slightly funereal vibe, you can ask for donations to your favourite charity in lieu of a gift.
- You can set a strict and low price limit. As well as forcing people to be creative, you may feel less guilty when you do end up ditching gifts you no longer need or don’t end up using.
- If you don’t mind being mercenary, accept everything then sell it as new on eBay.
But that’s just scratching the surface. What are the wedding gifts that our married readers have found genuinely useful? Share them in the comments. Hope the day goes well!