psychology

The Difference Between Shame And Guilt, And Why It Matters

Although shame and guilt may seem similar, shame is highly correlated with addiction, depression and aggression. In contrast, guilt is linked to empathy and understanding other perspectives.


List Your Own 'Personal Commandments' To Chart A Path To Happiness

Happiness is a decision that doesn’t come naturally to most of us. Figuring out the values you have now, and desire to live up to one day, is one of the primary steps to learning how to be happy.


Save Face When You're Angry With A 'Discomfort Caveat'

Anger has a way of getting the best of us. Most of the time, it’s better to walk away and take a few minutes to cool off, but you may not always have the time or space to do so. A “discomfort caveat” can inform the other party that you’re not thinking as clearly as you’d like to and help keep the conversation under control.


Identify And Avoid 'Ah, Screw It' Moments To Form Better Habits

Making new habits is difficult because it forces our brains to alter what comes naturally to us. Naturally, this leads to moments where we say “Ah, screw it” and go back to our old ways. Identifying when these happen can be key to overcoming them and sticking to the habit.


Master Self-Control By Thinking Of Urges As A Passing Wave

Developing self control is not always easy to do, especially when you’re trying to change a habit you’ve developed over time. To help fight your desire and stay the course, think of desire as a wave that builds and eventually passes by.


Why Writing Your Resume And Cover Letter Is So Hard

If you’ve ever applied for a job, you know how hard it is to write the perfect cover letter that will make you stand out above all the other applicants. It’s a competitive job market, and more often than not, career seekers find themselves face-to-face with blank computer screens in an attempt to pen that one short masterpiece.


Create A Set Of Scripts To Say 'No' Nicely

We’ve talked about why it’s important to say “No” before. Saying no bolsters focus. Saying no tactfully can be difficult, though, so create a few scripts for yourself that say no nicely.


Analyse Your Flawed Beliefs To Achieve Your Goals

We all hold ourselves back by staying within our comfort zones. By analysing your current beliefs, you might be able to shift them and break free of the ones that cage you.


This Diagram Shows How Restaurant Menus Play Tricks On Your Mind

You may be pledging to eat healthier, but chances are that restaurant down the street has different plans. Restaurants know exactly how to trick your mind into eating the items that make them the most money, rather than the item you may actually want.


Whenever You Compare Yourself To Someone On Social Media, Set A Goal

People only post the best parts of their lives on social media, so it’s easy to find ourselves making comparisons. Next time, figure out whether your feelings are telling you to get better at something, and set a goal to do so.