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Top 10 Conversation Hacks

2:00AM Gina Trapani | A whole lot more than just words passes between people who are talking, so a few simple conversational skills can help you recognise what’s really being said and help you lead the discussion your way. Learn how to read body language and facial expressions, de-code euphemisms, ask sensitive questions, criticize constructively, get what you want in negotiations, cut off chatterboxes, and more with our top 10 conversation hacks. Photo by PhillipC. More »

Tips for improving your people skills

8:30AM Sarah Stokely | If you’re not naturally gregarious or ‘charming’, people skills can seem like things that other people have, not you. The Lifehack.org blog had an interesting article which talked about the things you can do to get better at building rapport with people.Some of them might seem quite obvious – smile at people, listen to them, use eye contact. But if you’re naturally shy or introverted, even these things might seem difficult to you. I guess the thing to remember is that people (yourself included!) are very tuned in to body language – we can spot a fraud, or a fake smile, a mile away. So if you’re trying to get over a habit like looking at your shoes instead of the person you’re talking to, by all means try some of the tactics mentioned, but remember that *a little goes a long way*. A lot of this boils down to how relaxed you are around other people. As you relax, you’ll be able to trust your own instincts more, and you won’t need to remind yourself to do things like smile or make eye contact. As a bonus, your relaxed body language will be apparent to other people and they’ll relax around you too.How to improve your rapport development [Lifehack.org] More »

Four Rules to Understand What Makes People Tick – lifehack.org

12:00AM Gina Trapani | Next time you’re trying to make a convincing argument, close a sale, win a debate or simply get someone else to do something you want them too, check out blogger Scott H. Young’s four insights into what makes people tick. While these are pretty oversimplified to explain all human behavior, they’re all still true in some respect: Rule One: People Mostly Care About Themselves Rule Two: People are Motivated by Selfish Altruism Rule Three: People Don’t Think Much Rule Four: Conformity is the Norm Out of all these rules, selfish altruism rang the most true to me, especially here on Lifehacker with all the advice and tips flying back and forth between editors and commenters. Any rules you’d add to this list? Shout ‘em out in the comments. Four Rules to Understand What Makes People Tick [lifehack.org] More »