Having a registry for your wedding can be complicated, and you might end up with a bunch of stuff you don’t actually need. Asking for cash instead of gifts is becoming more and more acceptable, but there’s a right way to go about it.
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With a gift registry you’ll probably end up with things you rarely use in the future, like a fondue set, fancy plates, or crystal candlesticks. Instead, you can ask for cash as your wedding gift and put it toward your honeymoon, home, or what have you. If you want to ask for money, Taryn Williford at Apartment Therapy provides an example what you should say:
We’re so lucky to be able to spend our wedding day with all of our friends and family; your presence is truly all the present we need. Because we [have all the basic household supplies covered/have a ridiculously tiny apartment] if you’d like to get us a gift to celebrate, we’ve created a registry fund that we’ll use to [enjoy our honeymoon/save for a down payment/furnish our home together].”
Your “cash registry” information should follow the same rules as a normal registry and only be in shower invites or on your wedding web site, not in your wedding invitations. The key is to let people know what you’re going to use the money for, and always remember to thank them.
Non-Traditional Registry Etiquette (Or How to Ask for Cash, Politely) [Apartment Therapy]